Born and raised in the USA, the American Pakistani life has not always been smooth sailing.
She has had to overcome the same stigmas presented in the eastern world towards Pakistani woman. Sadaf talks about taboo issues in today’s Pakistani/Muslim communities along with highlighting her life as an American. All she wanted was to fit in. As we all can see in today’s climate, it is so difficult for a person of color to be an equal in the western world. Even at this age of forty-six she struggles to show people she is just like them.
Sadaf has endured events in her life that normal people in her circle may just experience one or none. She was divorced from her first marriage, went on to live an unconventional life in her second marriage where she never experienced dinner with her husband. She went through five miscarriages, and was blessed with her one boy Rafae, after many complications and experiencing preeclamsia. Life seemed to be going on an upward trajectory in 2019 but it was cut short by her husbands illness in 2021, he was diagnosed with Glioblastoma Multiforme ( Glioblastoma Multiforme). He was given six months to a year to live, a devastating and life altering trauma. Watching her husband suffer, go from her husband to a man she no longer recognized was trauma enough. Not receiving the proper care and love from the world was something she had never imagined.
As she puts it “2021-2022 were nothing short of hell on earth”.
Watching a grieving husband, from a grieving son, watching the father of your son pass away, and trying to make sense of your own pain. She spent the next year in the “why” and in self-pity, where she was mocked. She realized being a single mother was not going to be easy.
Today her life goal has shifted from showing her glamorous life to wanting to do more for society and causes.
In July of 2022 her late husband, Rehan Aslam, passed away from brain cancer. She has spent the past few years bringing light to the rare form of cancer he died from, Glioblastoma Grade 4, and various charities which are focus on child hunger and cancer. She is determined to be the working woman she never imagined being, but the thought of her son watching her rise in a career (God willing) and give him a good life gives her daily purpose to be a better version of herself.