My Life as a Working Mom.
I love reading blogs about mothers who talk about the incredibly tough job of staying home and raising their kids. Blogs about healthy recipes, and what we all NEED to be feeding our children. I could be one of those mothers, I actually thought that is what my life would be. My mother is a housewife and dedicated her life to raising us. As that may be rewarding for some, by the time I reached my late 20’s I knew I wanted something of my own. A lot of women equate their identities with their husbands, and I have noticed they feel awkward for not having a career when they talk about their lives. To those mothers, you don’t have to justify, no one mother should judge another.
Support was everything for me.
My Motivation
When I went through my divorce in my 20’s I felt so worthless that my sister Shazia and my friend, Saba, pushed me to find my place, my worth. In my eyes, these two women epitomize the very definition of “women empowerment”. My sister Shazia is a Hospitalist and a full-time mother. Saba, is an extremely driven lawyer who always has told me I can be whatever it is I wish to become. I started working and found it quite rewarding. I looked forward to getting ready, having a goal, and receiving a paycheck. With the support of the women in my life and my husband, I finished my Masters in Science of Accountancy and also passed the CFE. I studied for my CFE while I was expecting our child, Rafae. CFE is a Certified Fraud Examiner and as an Accountant I wanted three letters behind my name, but honestly, I feel I did it to impress my parents. In retrospect, I am happy I did it. I used to be extremely hard on myself and didn’t think I could accomplish anything. Ultimately, it’s our own feelings which motivate us. Working keeps me on my toes and having a daily routine. I feel I am a much better mother, wife, daughter, sister, and friend. Having a schedule, I get to check mark what I have done for the day.

Yes, You Can Do it All
Trust me my son is always on my mind. I choose to work full-time, I cook twice a week, I do not have a full-time maid, and I have enrolled my son in after school activities, and at the end of the night I catch up on my Real Housewives on Bravo. I have never let work come in the way of my family. It’s all about prioritizing. My son’s education is extremely important to us, I ensure he reads and finishes his homework every day. He is also enrolled in many different activities, making sure he doesn’t miss out on any opportunity. He’s turning into quite a lil’ man with a lot of his own unique ideas.
We have 24 hours in a day, working is about 8-10 of those hours.. it’s how you choose to use the other hours that matters most. Working doesn’t mean I don’t socialize, I do. Not only do I dedicate my time to charities, I enjoy down time with my friends, and I love attending functions with my husband. I have always admired women who were able to do it all. I read a lot of inspirational articles, and I follow influencers who are good for my soul. Most importantly, I wake up every day thinking how I can be a better version of myself today.
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November 1, 2022
Grief
Grief is the most intense emotion a human can feel. The trauma before and after is something that feels unbearable. Grief kills your soul, kills your will to be who you once thought you would become. I don’t see the “light at the end of the tunnel”, there is no such thing for me right now.
June 10, 2021
What is Change?
Change is exactly what the word means. Change is when you leave behind anything that is a regular part of your life.
December 8, 2020
Sadaf
There once was a girl who often dreamed she was destined for more than what her city had to offer. Shy, quiet, lost in her thoughts, unaware of what life had in store for her. Celebrating "Being Sadaf"!
October 1, 2020
Health Comes First
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July 10, 2020
Growing Up Brown in the USA
When I was a child my father would tell me, he wanted to eventually move back to Pakistan. I used to be terrified and worried when this would happen because I was born in America, it’s home.
June 19, 2020
A Live With Maheen
People know her as a gorgeous face turned fashion designer, married into a high profiled family. She is also known as Pakistan’s fashion icon, and a trend setter. But, she is so much more than that.
June 19, 2020
Spike in Human Trafficking during the COVID-19 Pandemic: An Interview with Jacquelyn Aluotto
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June 2, 2020
A Zoom Interview with Chau Nguyen: Domestic Abuse During Covid-19
Houston Area Women's Center (HAWC). Help is available during COVID-19. Visit hawc.org or call (713) 528-2121 to get 24/7/365 help.
May 5, 2020
A Time of Reflection
Life disrupted by this horrible virus? While others may be loving this time, I absolutely am having difficulty dealing with it. A personal test of resiliency and patience.
April 2, 2020
An Interview with Miss Houston, Blaine Ochoa
Blaine's determination, personality, and love of our city has proven she absolutely deserves that Crown of Miss Houston.
March 31, 2020
Are You Happy?
As I enter my birthday week it’s typical of me to sit back and analyze my life. Last week the realization that I still am not where I wish I would have been at age 42 hit me hard.
March 16, 2020
Social Distancing: A Good Time to Cut Away Toxic People
Time to detox yourself from toxic people. Who knew that we would be in a time and place where a virus would literally change the way we live our lives?
February 25, 2020
An Interview with Aisha Farooqui
I am honored to interview my special friend and official spokesperson of Ministry of Foreign Affairs for Pakistan, Aisha Farooqui. A born leader with a heart of gold and the mind to change the world.
December 6, 2019
Depression: Is it a choice?
As we approach the Holidays, we are exposed to different feelings. Some experience euphoria, excitement, sorrow, loss, and nostalgia are a big trigger for those feelings.
November 1, 2019
Mental Health Matters
Let's talk mental health. I’ve come to wonder why are we so afraid of other people’s negative comments? Do their comments define who we are as individuals or shape our future?
Love love this. I am not certain that we can do it all but I am working on trying to understand that maybe we don’t have to. Excited to follow your journey
Girl you are an inspiration, you do it all☺️
I hear ya Girl! You’re an inspiration to me! I’m not sure if I “do it all” but I most certainly try my best!😜My girls, my hubby, my clients and our new puppy most surely keep me in my toes- oh and please let me know if you ever meet the laundry fairy- it NEVER ends! 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤪😴
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